Our first installment in the “Moments of Motherhood: Writing Your Story” blog series comes to you from the hard working, beautiful inside and out (she is going to deny it, but it’s true!), mother of 3, Mary Meade. I met Mary about 2 years ago when I was searching for the worlds best hairstylist. I found that and more! She has grown to become a friend, a confidant (what hairstylist isn’t!?!), and business partner!
Mary is here to share how she is tackling the elusive “balance” we all strive for in daily life.
Finding Balance in the “Hustle & Grind”
by: Mary Meade
Hustle and Grind. That’s what they say, right? Well, I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way!
Hey y’all! My name is Mary. I am a wife of 19 years, a mother of three amazing teenagers (gasp!), and an entrepreneur. Our kids do sports, my husband works more than full time, we volunteer at our church, and I run two businesses. I am an independent hairstylist and a wellness advocate. To some people, that may sound like, “Mama, you’ve got your hands full!” To others, it may sound like a vacation. I have friends who have 1 child and are plenty busy. I have friends who have 7 children, and others with every number in between.
As a hairstylist, I have learned to become a good listener. There’s just something about that chair and a listening ear that puts people at ease. I truly believe that being a hairstylist isn’t just a job, it’s a calling. One thing that I have come to realize as I listen to women and hear their stories is that no matter if or how many kids are in the picture, we are all just trying to do our best. It can get real busy and real crazy trying to juggle the amount of things going on in our household on a weekly basis. Having a strategy and a support system is one of the things that helps me get through! I also have to make sure that I am taking time to take care of myself so that I can take care of everyone else. You can’t pour out of an empty cup.
At the end of the day, we are either working toward a goal, or just working. Maybe it’s time for some self reflection. Why are you doing what you’re doing? Is it for a reason? To meet a goal? Or because you think you have to? I have just come through an awesome season of reflection and I realized that I needed to let some things go. For instance, I love to read. I mean, really love. My idea of a perfect afternoon is a warm sunny spot on the beach, with a book in one hand and a margarita in the other. I had been in a book club for a while and even though it was fun and a hobby, it was adding another unnecessary stress to my life. I have had to take stock and look at how I am spending my time and answer the sometimes tough question- does this serve me? Now I’m not saying that we can just willynilly drop everything and become hippies who live on the beach and not work and live off of coconuts and love- although sometimes I wish that were an option! What I am saying is this- Is what I am doing contributing to my life goals, my family’s goals, and our happiness? If the answer is yes, then prioritize it! If the answer is no, then put it on the shelf until you have more time to add things back in. Life is a series of seasons and changes. You can fight them, or embrace them and mine the season for the gold that’s in it.
I have the goal of one day running my small but growing wellness business with my husband as both of our full time incomes. This will not happen if I just continue life as it is. I have to spend dedicated time each day working my contacts, setting up classes, meeting clients, etc. This is something that stretches me. I am what I like to think of as an introverted extrovert. I don’t mind talking to people, but I only want a few at a time. Don’t even think about putting me in front of a large group. Yet, here I am teaching classes about health and wellness to groups of varying sizes so that I can change the trajectory of my family and our financial footprint. And you know what? It hasn’t killed me! In fact, it has helped me see how strong I really am and that I have valuable input for others. I know that this season of intentional hard work may look like keeping three calendars on me at all times for cross referencing, but it will not always be that way. As my businesses grow and evolve, different things will be required of me. I am 100% ok with that. I am looking at the long game, not just the short term. So for me, while I would describe my life as full, I refuse to say “I’m busy” and leave it at that. I am engaged, I am learning, I am growing, I am leading, I am following, I am moving, I am effective, I am productive, I am happy, I am active, I am thriving!
What are you? It’s never too late to change the narrative.
Want to hear a little more of what Mary has to say? Or Maybe you really need those ends trimmed? Either way, she’d love to talk! Follow along with her on her Wellness Journey and at MM Studio!
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